Monday Morning Commute: A Trade Was Made
The Universe was owed a life, so I gave it the first twenty-five years of mine. It only seemed fair. When a daredevil defies the odds, a Furie is bested. It only seemed fair. When a beast recoils just before the trap snaps shut, the Odds are defied. It only seemed fair. Fourteen years ago I took a ride that should have claimed me, but the Universe wasn’t paying attention.
I don’t believe in Providence, or Destiny, but I do believe in Chance. The opportunity to do better, to improve, to make the most of it. Like a lot of chances, I hadn’t asked for it, nor did I expect it. But it was given to me all the same.
So when I climbed out of that car, climbed out of myself, and climbed out of whatever sort of husk had set slowly over me during my first quarter-century, I looked the Universe in its Third Eye. We spoke nothing, but exchanged something, and that was the first twenty-five years of my life.
It only seemed fair.
This summer though, I’ve gone looking. Around the corners. Down the halls. Behind the aisles. Looking for those first twenty-five years of my life.
They were there. Right there. Just waiting for me.
The lie I had told myself was that I had given the Universe the first twenty-five years of my life, but the truth really was that I didn’t want them anymore. Maybe it’s necessary to lie to yourself every once in a while. When you’re climbing out of cars, when you’re climbing out of yourselves, when you’re climbing out of husks. Clean starts don’t exist, but maybe sometimes you need to believe in them just to put your first foot forward. But that doesn’t amputate the angst, it just punts it. My first twenty-five years weren’t sacrificed, they were stabled, tabled, hidden for a while.
This summer though, I’ve gone looking. Rummaging. Pulling out and examining those first twenty-five years.
They were there. Right there. Just waiting for me.
What’s nostalgia when it’s dread?
What’s nostalgia when you’re not looking back because it feels good, but because it hurts?
Sometimes maybe lies are necessary, and definitely sometimes maybe hurt is good for the soul. Not the sort of ruinous hurt that lays one down, but the sort of healing hurt that comes from acknowledging who you were and finding peace with it. It’s easy to say you Contain Multitudes when you’re just trying to pretend you’re complicated and unique. It’s difficult to say you Contain Multitudes when you’re ashamed of the first twenty-five years of your life. A burdensome, non-productive shame. Though, is shame ever really a productive emotion? Probably not.
This summer though, I’ve gone looking. I’ve found them. The first twenty-five years of my life.
They were there. Right there. Just waiting for me.
What does it mean to acknowledge? What does it mean to accept? What’s the difference between the two?
Not sure, unclear, and I have no idea.
But what I have found this summer is as I’ve sifted through the wreckage, the bartering with the Cosmos, the climbing, the cars, the husks, the shame, the liminal states, the regretful behavior, the endless car rides, the sleepless nights, the countless different medications, the unpredictability as a friend-boyfriend-brother-son-coworker, is that, as they say, the Way Out Is Through.
I thought the Universe was owed a life, so I thought I’d give it the first twenty-five years of mine. It declined. The rest has been up to me.
This is Monday Morning Commute.
—-
video games.
Still playing The Last of Us Part II and Dead Cells. Time is a fucking flat circle, no?
—-
music.
Man, I’ve been listening to a lot of Fall Out Boy and Coheed and Cambria this summer. In other words, part of me rummaging around in my own psyche is finding old loves that are no longer laced with the poison of that past period. Like, I really enjoy them still. Sort of surprising, but I’m always up for enjoying some angst and sci-fi prog. I mean, right?
—-
books.
I’m really trying to fucking finish Pet Sematary before the school semester starts. I’m going to level with you, okay? Prognosis: not great.
—-
movies.
You should go see Bodies Bodies Bodies and Top Gun: Maverick in the theaters. Summer’s running down, it’s going to get darker and colder soon. The cineplex won’t feel as welcoming. Go! Go.
—-
life.
School is starting soon. I’ve never had three months of my life to myself before, and it’s been nice. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t excited to get back into the classroom, though. My only concern? Bro, I’m teaching fucking five classes. That’s over a hundred students. A hundred goddamn papers! But it’s good cash, extra cash, welcome cash. As well, it’s another class towards my next promotion, which, fuck, I’ve been laboring at forever.
My mantra I keep repeating? I can do anything for fifteen weeks. I’m not sure that’s true, but remember what I said about lies.
—-
This is Monday Morning Commute.