Fear Fest: Failure!

OCTOBER 2nd, Failure

 “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”   ~Henry Ford

Hello again Omeganaughts.   The Dude here to guide you through another fear that can wreck a person’s mind and destroy their self-esteem.

Failure can be tough to judge.   Its subjective.   Fear of Failure (Atychiphobe) is fairly common.   It can cripple a person almost beyond repair.   Fear of failure can be the tip of the iceberg when it comes to social disorders.   One of the most common causes of fear of failure is rooted in traumatic childhood experiences.   Something like demeaning parents or older siblings could cause a complex that makes the person so afraid of failing in the eyes of others.     I know what this is like first hand as I have a complex relationship with my older brother.   I don’t think he realized the effect he had on my life as a child, but it took me a long time to put it aside and move forward.

 The most common symptom of an atychiphobe is the defeatist attitude.   They will not attempt something unless success is absolutely guaranteed.   Most will either self sabotage, or avoid attempting anything that there is the possibility of failing at.   Atychiphobia can also cause other problems as it causes a false sense of perfection.   Some will convince themselves that the risks are not worth the reward , and thus avoid trying.

THE ANSWER:   Atychiphobia is a problem that therapy can help.   For all the people that say therapy doesn’t work, Fuck you.   I’ve never gone to therapy, but my understanding is its talking about your problems to a sympathetic ear who’s trained to say the right thing?   How is that bad? The other way to cope with atychiphobia is to follow the age old axiom of “Practice makes Perfect.”   If you’re skilled at something, confidence will come.   I personally follow a different saying …”Fake it ’til you make it.”